TedTalk’s Love No Matter What: Listening to shame, vulnerability “the most accurate measure of courage”

Ted Talks are almost always amazing.  I don’t know about you but no matter your age I think the end of every year is inherently a time for taking stock.  Not necessarily of the last year but our lives up to this point in time. With that in mind something about this particular TedTalk really resonated for me and I think it will for you too.

We live in a time when we can hide behind the anonymity of the internet yet at the same time if you or a family member have done anything that might bring shame, you are going to think twice about risking exposure.

It takes a tremendous amount of courage to be honest and risk vulnerability. For men, it’s a double edged sword because men in our society cannot be perceived as weak.  We must remind our men that allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is “the most accurate measure of courage”. For women; maybe she has an innovative idea but she doesn’t feel attractive enough to bring it forward.  So instead she tells herself, I’ll do this, or I’ll finish that when I’m as close to perfect as possible. Hollywood has made millions on movies with this theme.  Don Draper’s Mad Men character would never get away with impersonating his dead commanding officer today.

We must change our way of thinking.  I like to say “Don’t confuse my kindness for weakness”.  I am strong and there is little I can’t do if I set my mind to it.  We all have this capacity.  Remember this throughout the coming year and for the rest of your lives.  We are all flawed, some worse than others but flawed just the same.

Everyone’s has their own yardstick for flaws. Imagine all of the inventions that would have gone uninvented had the inventor been afraid of being judged.  How many works of art?  The list is endless. Celebrate your uniqueness.  It is all part of our Evolution, all part of the plan.

Love, like there’s no tomorrow.

Peace & Happy Holidays.

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About | Brené Brown, Ph.D.

Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past decade studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame.

Her 2010 TEDx Houston talk on the power of vulnerability is one of the most watched talks on TED.com, with over 15 million views. She gave the closing talk, Listening to Shame,  at the 2012 TED Conference in Long Beach.

Brené is the author of the #1 New York Times Bestseller Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (2012). She is also the author of the #1 New York TimesBestseller The Gifts of Imperfection (2010), and I Thought It Was Just Me (2007).

Brené is also the founder and CEO of The Daring Way – a teaching and certification program for helping professionals who want to facilitate her work on vulnerability, courage, shame, and worthiness. Brené lives in Houston with her husband, Steve, and their two children.

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